Celibacy abstinence dating
(1 Corinthians -20 says to shun immorality and all sexual looseness in thought, word or deed – taken from the Amplified Bible.) No sexual activity would also include oral sex and masturbation which is considered self-sex.In fact, if we are not married, we shouldn’t be lying naked in the bed with our partner.There should be no viewing of the naked body or fondling of the private parts.” I agree with that and that is why I don’t believe one is really celibate if they are having sex with sex toys.Reply the act of sex is between 2 humans; toys mimic human interaction but it’s not sex.opening the flood gates of sex makes you want more and as you know it requires self control to dial it all the way back – no sex toys or anything. I didnt understand fully why having sex with toys were wrong I had never read anything in the Bible about it but it felt wrong.Reply @diann…And celibacy is saying no to all sexual relations including sex toys, masturbation etc. If you think it, you will do it and that’s why celibacy is about so much more than a physical act. I convinced mysellf to do it because I figured it isnt as wrong as having sex with a man.
In the end, they’ve failed because I knew in my mind, heart and gut that it wasn’t what I wanted and as much as I tried to numb myself into wanting the relationship, I couldn’t kid myself.
I tried to have this conversation with some Christians in a forum and they thought discussing sex toys was inappropriate so that’s why I brought it over here. Using sex toys is no different than a Christian couple supposedly waiting until marriage yet pushing the envelope as far as they can push it sexually with heavy petting, kissing, touching and for some, oral sex without going all the way to intercourse.
If you’re going to do all of that, I’d say you might as well go on ahead and do the deed because in your heart, you really want to do the deed.
My point in all of this is that if you withdraw, you will most likely get him to put in more effort, but that will only take you so far.
Ultimately, if you want a relationship to be as you want it to be, you need to be true to what you really want.
The Bible does not give us a list of what qualifies as a “hint” or tell us what physical activities are approved for a couple to engage in before marriage.